By helping a student grieve, I learned you first need to grieve yourself. I was too strong for my students for too long and ended up breaking down Tuesday with my Field Coordinator, but that is just what I needed to be prepared for the rest of the week in my classroom.
We had great support this past week in our building, and even just working off of each other was a great support for each of us. The couple of minutes walking to the bathroom, or to the library with a student allowed for some breathing time that we both needed last week.
I did a lot of back rubbing and talking to students, and not just about what happened but what they had been up to and more about who they are. Of course they were more comfortable with me than with other support so we just walked the school and chatted. One student in particular needed just that, and as we transitioned into this week knowing that this student and I have a little bit better understanding of each other.
Life continues to go on, and by celebrating the life that was lost I think the community, the school, my students and myself are working together to make this difficult time more manageable.
TODAY-
My student who lost his sibling came back today, and I realized in working with him today that our class was not the same last week. I loved having him back, and the day started off so smoothly with a joke about how messy his desk was. So sweet to see him back with his friends. Still struggling, I can see beneath his hard exterior that he is struggling, and we are working to make sure he knows that it is okay.
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